True Love Waits

For as long as I can remember, I’ve known this simple phrase. It’s become quite cliché. But I used to think it meant something very different. I was so absorbed in the day that I would meet my “true love” that I thought of it as “True love awaits.” I was so focused on the part about a soul mate at the end of waiting that I missed the most important part: True love waits.

I’ve never been married and I’m only seventeen so I’m not an expert on true love in anyway. I’m actually not very knowledgable on this subject at all. But even so, God has been showing me what true love is.

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Sometimes girls like to dream of a “whirlwind courtship” in which the relationship goes swiftly from A to B to C. Others go through life with the mentality that “if you like someone, you date them” and quickly go from one to the other without waiting. But true love… it waits for the right time to appear. God has a specific time for everything and if you listen He will show you the time and place for everything. And the waiting will only make your love grow stronger if it is true.

Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.

Song of Songs 2:7

Sometimes love isn’t fun. Often, the person one loves the most is also the one who hurts and disappoints him in the greatest ways. But true love waits for that hurt to heal and the person they love to change. True love patiently forgives, time and time again. It does not demand change, but waits and grows and learns and waits some more.

Love is patient

1 Corinthians 13:4

True love is not conditional or only there when it is fun. It stands through the storms of life and works out the problems. True love lasts in sickness, poverty, and the worst. It loves, honours, and cherishes through the tougher days. It is not based on shallow, changeable traits like looks or personality, but on character. True love lasts through the starving college days and early mornings with little ones, and the walkers and doctor’s visits later in life. It is the husband who can’t stop smiling at his wife after a child is born. It is the wife who looks at her husband with love and confidence when he loses his job. True love waits through poopy diapers, and broken cars, broken legs and infertility, gray hairs and memory loss.

Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us

Romans 5:3-5

Most of all, true love waits and waits and waits forever. I’ve learned that the waiting that secures love is not just a few days or weeks or months. It’s not even a few years. True love does not cease, it never fails or gives up. It waits until death does two people part.

For love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like a blazing fire, like a mighty flame. Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away.

Songs of Songs 8:6-7

That’s not to say it is wrong to be in a relationship that is not true love. It takes a while to find such a love. And there will be mistakes in every relationship, including the love that is true. We are flawed people only capable of loving sinfully.

But one characteristic of true love that I do know is that it waits. So look for the love that waits patiently. The kind of love that lasts forever and never fails.

Has God shown you your true love yet? Please share your story! I’d love to read it!


12 thoughts on “True Love Waits

  1. Awesome post! I love what you said here: “True love is not conditional or only there when it is fun. It stands through the storms of life and works out the problems.”
    I really appreciate you pointing this out. Too many times, so-called “Christian” romance paints “true love” and marriage as picture-perfect, when it is, in fact, extremely difficult at times. Relationships aren’t supposed to be perfect.
    Lovely post! 🙂

    • Thank you, Sarah! 🙂

      I’m glad that I was able to bring the harder side of love across. As you probably know, I’m not a fan of the picture perfect Christian romance love either. It just isn’t real. 😉

  2. Every stage has its difficulty- waiting for your spouse is definitely one of them! I’m grateful that God has written an amazing love story for my husband and me. We met freshman year in high school. He wanted to date, I barely even wanted to be his friend! He never gave up. We went to prom together. I prayed and he prayed. He wanted to be with me, but I wasn’t so sure. But I felt the Lord telling me that I needed to give him a chance. We began to date and the Lord told me this is who I was going to marry! I was like, really?! I prayed that the Lord would give me the feelings I needed. He did! We married at 19! God is so good. 🙂 I recommend reading the book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye.

    • Thank you for sharing your beautiful story, Brittany! That’s amazing! The way your husband didn’t give up on you and your commitment to prayer in that time is a testimony that true love really does wait. I love your story!! 🙂 Thank you! It is a great encouragement to me of how God works in our lives… including the area of falling in love. 🙂

      I have read IKDG already. I disagree with Josh in many ways though I do believe he has several good points. But I am glad I read it… there are always fruits to be found! 😉

    • Ah, I love that it happened by accident! That’s so adorable! It might have seemed accidental to you at the time, but God definitely knew what He was doing. 😉

      • So true! I love sharing my story because I want girls to know that you don’t always have to have those “lovey dovey” feelings at first. When the Lord shows you He will make everything happen. It doesn’t always have to make sense to you at first. And we’ve had rough times in our marriage too, but I can always go back to our start and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is who God wants me to stay with and that there is a reason He put us together!

        • Please keep sharing your lovely story! It is a great inspiration and encouragement to me and I know that others will appreciate it, too. Thank you for your honesty and encouragement, Brittany. 🙂

  3. What a sweet post, Liz! I agree–true love is a love we don’t actively look for, and it doesn’t arrive overnight. One thing I see is people who are trying to mold true love out of something that just isn’t meant to be, and they push it and get married and end up…well, unhappy! Whirlwind relationships sound great in the romance novels, but in real life, they’re usually not so glamorous.

    • Thanks, Kate. 🙂

      You’re right — its not something we find when we actively look. “Experts” say that love comes when you least expect it and I agree 100%.

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